Do you really know where you end and begin? Do you often feel like you are spread too thin? And are other people more important to you than you?
In relationships, boundaries prevent us from taking over-responsibility, or under-responsibility. We let others be who and where they are and allow them the dignity of their process (even if it doesn’t look very dignified to us). The propensity to enable, rescue, or go into “fix it” mode is diminished. Healthy boundaries help us discern the difference between empowering others and enabling them. Boundaries also protect us from picking up on other people’s physical, mental, emotional and/or spiritual pain.
If you would like more boundary exercises to help support you in taking personal responsibility in communication, email me and I will send you chapter and exercises I outline in my book Manifesting Love From the Inside Out.
The bottom line is, without healthy boundaries you cannot give the best of yourself to others. You will feel depleted, unsafe, ungrounded and/or imbalanced. Without clear boundaries, you will also likely experience a great deal of drama, fear, and confusion in your life.
Boundaries are vital to help us to stay in the eye of the storm during the “bad weather” and chaos of life. Though insanity can be all around us, if we are grounded, centered, and possess clear, healthy, flexible boundaries, we have a very good chance of not being swept away by the craziness that is part and parcel of life on planet earth.
When you know yourself, love yourself and take good care of yourself, life can become an amazing adventure. You no longer have a propensity to take over-responsibility or under-responsibility. You show up as you truly are and allow others to do the same. Your needs are met be virtue of taking care of your relationship with you. Boundaries will help you stay solid and centered in your worthiness and assist you in living from clarity, integrity, love and peace.
Boundaries can help us “come home to ourselves” and support us in getting really comfortable in our skin. They also help us become happier, healthier, more intuitive and discerning human beings. Generous giving and gracious receiving becomes more natural, joyful and balanced.
Ultimately healthy boundaries are about protecting your connection to your soul and Source and a vital component increating an amazing, blessed, and authentically empowered life.
Please in touch if you have questions, comments thoughts, would like additional support, or have a prayer request.
Sending you blessings of healing, wholeness, healthy boundaries and great love,
Tammi Baliszewski, Ph.D.