Cultivating Boundaries & Claiming Peace – Gift Included

Many would agree, we live in challenging times. However, as we learn to cultivate clear healthy boundaries, it is possible to reside in the place of peace, despite the circumstances, challenges, and “chaos” going on outside of ourselves.

Whether it is our close relationships with those we love, people who are “problems,” or just the unrest and discomfort of mass consciousness, boundaries are helpful, and in fact vital, if we want to feel peaceful, comfortable, and be truly empowered.  

To be able to take responsibility (the ability to respond) to external influences we have no control over, it is important to “build our spiritual muscle,” strengthen our divine alignment and place a boundary around this connection.  This helps us not only to feel better and attract better things, but also positively influence others and the world from the inside out. 

If we want to feel better AND be a positive force in the world, it is vital to be able to remain in the “eye of the storm”  and to be able to witness storms from the internal space of compassion, peace, and equanimity. 

If you are ready to be in the driver’s seat of your own life, want to consciously choose the energy in which you reside, and claim your internal sovereign space, I created this “Boundaries Meditation” for you.

This meditation is a great way to start your day, before immersing yourself in the activities and energy of the world. If you do it consistently for a week, I promise you will feel more peaceful inside of yourself, safer in the world, and more connected to your soul.

My prayer and intention is that it supports you in many ways.
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I invite you to be in touch with me at tammibpdh@gmail.com with your thoughts, ideas, experiences, prayer requests, questions, and anything you would like to share.

Sending you blessings of equanimity, empowerment, grace, ease, peace, and ever-expanding  love,

The Inner Dragon


I had an appointment with a modern day shaman a couple of weeks ago. He told me I needed to access my Inner Dragon. My response was, huh? I told him I was aware of my Inner Unicorn but not my Inner Dragon. He told me I needed a dragon to protect my unicorn. Well, that at least made a little sense to me.

After I wrote my blog “YES” last week, I went to an art class where another participant took all my new paints and painted 9 paintings with them (I painted 2) by the end of the class, it was the end of my paints. I didn’t say anything. Alright…I think I get it, it can’t always be “yeses” and “unicorns,” I need my dragon.

The dragon can say NO, the dragon knows boundaries. Healthy boundaries are all about discernment, letting in the good and keeping out the bad. I have healthy boundaries in my relationship with my husband, who like me, is intuitive and sensitive. But now it seems I need to strengthen my boundaries in the rest of my reality. Boundaries are important in the physical world, and if we do not have access to them, we will inevitably be taken advantage of. It is important to be able to say: no; no thank you; or this does not honor me.

I talk about the need for boundaries in my book Manifesting Love From the Inside Out (www.manifestinglove.net) An essential step in successfully defining and expressing boundaries is the ability to communicate without blaming. We need to be able to take responsibility for our feelings, rather than saying “You make me angry” or “You make me sad,” a more responsible way of defining boundaries would be “I feel angry” or “I feel sad.” A formula for emotionally honest communication would look something like:

When you: take my paints
I feel: a bit confused
I would appreciate: if you would ask to borrow them, or perhaps using some other students supplies, so there will be some left for me.

So what I have learned is, if my dragon speaks up, I can stay in the loving energy of the unicorn. If the dragon does not speak up, I build up resentment, frustration and anger – then the unicorn, my sense of connection and my good feelings are gone!

Setting and maintaining boundaries protects our personal connection to Spirit and supports in making that connection a priority. Healthy boundaries create a powerful sense of freedom and safety within ourselves, in our relationships and in the world.

Are you clear in your boundaries? Do you have a healthy balance of the dragon and the unicorn? Write to me I would love to hear your stories and your thoughts!